So how does it all get messed up, you know feeling frustrated, unhappy?
One of the reasons is that your needs are not being met. Again it is that simple act of placing awareness on your needs and meeting them.
One of the problems is that we can feel selfish meeting our needs or somewhere we don’t look because we are concerned that when we discover our needs we won’t actually be able to meet them and then we’ll be even more disappointed.
I can tell you that when you get down to your needs, they are actually very simple and it is easy and straightforward to meet them.
The problem is that we have neglected them for so long, that they are buried very deep under everyone else’s needs and a whole host of resentment.
One of the other problems is that we are so heavily drawn into other people meeting our needs, that’s a big strain on any relationship (let me qualify that when I use the word relationship I am not just talking in the sense of romantic, I am talking about every person you relate to, some are stronger relationships than others).
If we don’t know what our needs are, but yet we expect everyone around us to know what our needs are and get frustrated with people when they don’t fulfil our needs, it’s a clear recipe for unhappiness.
So start by just taking the time to ask yourself what your needs are. Make a decision that everyday for the next week that you are going to take 10 minutes to just write down what it is you need right now.
At first it will be a holiday in the Bahamas, win the lottery so that I don’t have to work however what you will find underneath it all (that is the magic of doing it for seven days, at day 4 you hit the “I don’t know anymore” keep going, the gold is there) that your needs can be as simple as needing a walk in the morning on your own and by meeting your need for that day you are a much happier person to be around and isn’t that worth investing time in?
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