Hell in a Handbasket or The Age of Aquarius?

Today is the actual dawning of the Age of Aquarius.

We’ve gone as far as we can pretending that we’re all separate and we have no connections.

We are all connected, what we do, the choices that we make affect each other and the world we live in.

The human race has created the world that we see now and some may say it looks like we’re going to hell in a hand basket.

The human race has been like a teenager with a messy bedroom, feeling that their parents are nagging them
about tidying it up.

They have started to see that it’s not their parents nagging them, that they really are living in a mess and it really does affect their world and without question or nagging they start to sort it out bit by bit one step at a time.

For those who consider themselves healers, lightworkers (Andrea from A Gift From Gaia beautifully terms them lightwalkers) will find the old ways of sending healing and ignoring yourself in the process won’t work.

The only way forward (and this isn’t me being dictatorial, you’ll feel this in your heart, or you’ll continue with the old ways and discover you keep coming back to the same issues no matter how much healing you’ve sent it or had) is to focus on your connection to yourself and hold that the strongest that you can in any situation that you are in.

You realise that whatever you are affected by can only be resolved by going within.

You look at any situation and see that whatever you are feeling about it, is best healed from within.

For example, the recent devastating bushfires in Australia. Most people read social media and either join in the prayers or send money. Firstly it is really important that we help where we can, but these actions are coming from your mind and someone elses actions.

At some point we are all going to be overwhelmed (and some of us already are) at doing everything we can to help the situations around us.

Before you take action process your own feelings about it, this helps you to be grounded and centred in your heart. Our heart has more miraculous answers than our mind can ever come up with.

You may end up doing praying and sending money, but we’ll sort out what we see as our reality much easier if we do the heartwork first.

How do you feel about the Australian bushfires? Sit with this and feel it, what is it telling you about what thoughts and beliefs you have.

Feeling your feelings first, you take yourself into your hesrtspace. From here you will know what action to take if any, it maybe that your action is to hold as much peace in your heart as you can.

This is a fabulous piece of writing about the real causes of the fires and would therefore offer longer term solutions to preventing crises.

Susie Gessey Facebook

Never underestimate the power of peace, if you are in a room of full of fear and you remain at peace, then firstly you will not have added to the fear that is there and secondly some of those people will have felt your peace and it will have calmed their fears.

This is similar to the expression of ” lighthouses don’t go round saving ships they just shine their light for people to find safety”.

In what looks like troubled times never underestimate how many lives are saved by the lighthouse.

The original post from Andrea at A Gift From Gaia that inspired this.


Looking after yourself? At the fire alarm or wait until your house has burnt down?

This is really interesting to look at, are there any behaviours on there that you recognise?

All behaviours are symptoms of something deeper.

So if you notice any of these behaviours then get into the habit of stopping and asking yourself what is going on?

Why are you in flight mode?

What has scared you?

It is the pausing and taking time to notice on a regular basis that helps shift your life.

Most stress comes from the fact that people have no idea what they are really feeling and what is going on.

They only pay attention when it gets to a crisis point, pay attention earlier and it will be much easier to change your life.

It’s like ignoring the fire alarm, when you do the house burns down.

It’s much easier to deal with a small fire than to have to rebuild your whole house.

You are important in your life, take notice of yourself ❤

Why following the cycles of the moon can help with your wellbeing.

How are you feeling?

Tomorrow (12th November 2019) is a full moon.

As an empath (someone who picks up on how people or places are feeling) I could be heavily affected by the full moons but have learnt how to use that experience positively just by doing the following below.

If you feel out of sorts and can’t quite work out what is going on its worth starting to note how you are feeling and keeping a track of when the full and new moons are.

Like the female menstrual cycle or the tides the moon has a cycle of just over 28 days.

The moon has a full and new one in each cycle. You can see the impact of this on the high and low tides.

If you track the moon cycle and note how you are feeling, you’ll possibly start to see patterns in your thoughts and feelings. When you are aware it makes it easier to deal with.

It’s a bit like pmt, when you know where you are on your cycle you have an understanding of why you are feeling how you are feeling and hopefully how to look after yourself.

You’ll maybe start to notice that you are always feeling a certain way at different parts of the moon cycle.

Self knowledge for me is akin to looking at a map and knowing what type of road your journey is going to take. If you know that you’re about to turn onto a motorway you’ll drive differently than if you were on a road.

Self knowledge and self aware are the keys to everything. When you take the time to notice them (that’s all mindfulness is (it’s not necessarily meditation), it’s just being aware) ) you take the time to impact your life in a positive way.

It’s definitely full tomorrow, go howl at that moon.

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Emotions are Data not Directions


I love the emails that I get from Susan David.

Dear Jennifer,

As you’ve likely noticed over the course of these newsletters, I’m a major advocate of validating one’s own emotions. How you feel is how you feel. You shouldn’t judge yourself for your feelings. They are neither good nor bad—they just are.

Your feelings reflect your emotional response to the world. However, it’s important not to confuse your feelings with reality itself, or to let them dictate your actions. This is what I mean when I encourage people to see theiremotions as data, not directives. Think of them as one data point among many to consider as you move forward.

Imagine that you’re in a staff meeting. You’re trying to make a point about an upcoming project, but a colleague cuts you off and moves on to another topic. You feel disrespected, and depending on your mood and personality, you might sulk or lash out. Voila: You’ve been hooked by your emotions. They’re running the show, pulling you along after them.

When your feelings threaten to take the wheel, how might you handle them more productively? Here are a few tips:

  • Consider the situation from someone else’s point of view.To continue with our hypothetical meeting, just because you felt disrespected doesn’t mean that the colleague set out to disrespect you. Perhaps the meeting was running long and they were trying to get through the agenda. Maybe you were inadvertently repeating a point a someone else had already made and they were trying to move on. Or it’s possible that they were just distracted and thought you’d finished. Getting outside of your own head can provide you with a different vantage point on the situation and put your initial response in perspective.
  • Be strategic. Even if you decide that the only logical conclusion is that your coworker was, in fact, being a jerk, think about whether following your feelings will get you where you want to be. Snapping at them might indeed shut them down, but it could also make other colleagues clam up and earn you a reputation as a hothead. Sulking could provide some momentary satisfaction, but if you don’t contribute, you might miss out the satisfaction of shaping the project in a meaningful way. Maybe it’sbetter to set feelings aside for the duration of the meeting, then address them in a one-on-one conversation with the colleague in question once your temper has cooled.
  • Address the anxieties underlying your feelings. Take a moment to explore the reasons why you felt as you did, and consider strategies for taking care of those issues. Perhaps it’s something you can take on directly: If you feel that your team routinely disregards your ideas, try talking to a supervisor or sympathetic colleague about how they can better have your back. The problem could also be more deeply-seated, say, a delayed response to parents who made you feel unworthy of attention. Processing those issues might take some intensive work, including therapy, but even just recognizing their influence can help guide you toward productive outcomes.

No matter what you feel, those emotions are valid. They don’t need to be judged or justified, but neither are they entitled to run your life. Your choices are yours to make. Let your feelings give their input, then pick the course of action that lines up with your goals and values.

My best to you on your journey,

P.S. In the coming months, I’ll be speaking at events in many different cities (Milan, Brisbane, New York and others.) I look forward to hopefully meeting you at one of these. My tour dates arehere. If you watched my TED Talkand want to take the next step, pick up a copy of Emotional Agility or take my free Emotional Agility Insights quiz.

Here are some things to understand about emotions

I love my weekly emails from Dr Nicole The Holistic Psychologist.

“This week I chatted with Whitney Goodman, LMFT (@sitwithwit) – Whitney talks about all things emotional regulation, including, how to work through difficult emotions in relationships.

Emotional intelligence is something I talk about frequently.

We live in a culture that doesn’t understand emotions. Most of our caregivers don’t teach us how to regulate emotions. Our schools don’t speak to emotions at all. Entertainment reflects the emotional confusion we feel as a collective.

Here are some things to understand about emotions:

1. Emotions = energy in motion. Emotion comes from the Latin word that means “energy in motion.” Emotions are energy. They run through the body. The body responds with flutters in the belly, tightness in the chest, a rapid heart beat. When we understand emotions as energy we can allow ourselves to feel them, not become them.

2. We feel emotions, we are not our emotional state. From the time we are children we hear caregivers say “I am sad” or “I am angry.” Then we begin to communicate in the same way. Emotions are something we experience, they are not who we are. Shifting our mindset in this way allows us to be aware of how we are responding to the emotions we feel.

3. All emotions are messengers that have important roles. Unfortunately, our lack of emotional awareness has led to rejecting certain emotions. Anger, jealousy, and sadness are often seen as negative or “bad” emotions. This leads people to repress or ignore these emotions. There is no such thing as a negative emotion. By becoming curious about why you’re feeling an emotion you can gain self-awareness.

4. Learning to breathe will allow you to process your emotions. Breathwork is one of the most powerful tools in learning emotional regulation. Just a few belly breaths during challenging emotions can shift your state of consciousness in both mind and body. I practice breathing every time I feel emotionally overwhelmed. It helps me to remain conscious (most of the time), not habitually react, and it helps me to make a conscious choice in how I will respond.

5. It’s very normal to have confusion around what you’re feeling. Sometimes we have no idea what we’re actually feeling. For example, sometimes when I’m excited, I think I’m feeling anxious. So I’ll take a moment and ask myself “what am I actually feeling?” “Could this be excitement?” I find that our minds rush to label an emotional experience before we’re actually sure what we are feeling. Remember, there is no rush to label.

I hope these tips help to create some clarity around emotions.

Happy Healing!


Dr. Nicole
The Holistic Psychologist”

Dr Nicole The Holistic Psychologist