We influence the people around us without realising it. All the time we are taking in people’s behaviours and when we are self loving towards our self we model and give other people permission to do the same.
I met up with someone and messaged them to let them know nice it had been. I didn’t here from this person for a couple of months and in their message they apologised for not replying sooner and explained that they had been overwhelmed and needed to look after the Self first.
I found that so refreshing and permission giving on so many levels. After reading this I started to think about all the times that I would respond to some form of communication so as not to offend. I realised how stressful it is to be constantly replying and constantly worrying about not upsetting the other person.
I am grateful for that friend for modeling to me how it’s done and giving me permission to do the same. When I heard from her I was pleased and hoped that she was OK and I relax knowing that the people worth having in my life would feel the same with my lack of communication.
So if you are still not convinced that thinking about yourself and your needs first is worth doing, just remember that you are setting an example and giving other people around you permission to do the same.
Go change your world and everyone around you, little by little, step by step.