Author: jenniferannerobinson

I have worked with teenagers, adults and children to help them believe in themselves and live their best life. To develop Resilience, self belief and a love for themselves that helps them feel in complete control of their destiny and life choices. I support people by teaching them the skills of managing and understanding your beliefs and emotions and helping them to know and understand the best way to support themselves.

Self Love Day 2 – how to not take it personally.

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My Self Love Day 1 article prompted a question along the lines of  “yes that is great I have not to take it personal, I get that, its all to do with the other person and not me, but how do I actually do it?”

So are you ready for the magic formula? This is how we do it ….

The first thing to do is actually pay the situation some attention and a wonderful way to do that is through journaling. It is only when we put our attention on it that we can find out what the root cause is.

It’s ok noticing the dripping tap but unless we take any action, the tap is going to keep dripping and until we look at it we can’t know why. It might be because it needs a new washer, but until you investigate you have no idea what the root cause is and if you don’t know what that is how on earth can you find a solution.

Journaling helps you to look at the situation, which in a lot of cases is nothing to do with what is happening. It can be an old hurt or pain resurfacing to be healed. I recently had an achilles tendon injury and one of the therapies on offer was to retraumatise the injury to promote the healing process.

Our psyche can be doing that to help us heal an old trauma or hurt by creating another one to promote the healing process. The journaling helps us to stand back from the situation and look at the story objectively to see if we can see the core.

Having an awareness and understanding of the situation is also very helpful in giving you a barrier between the person and the situation. Just take your journal and write down everything that you would want to say to them if you gave yourself full permission to feel all those feelings.

Once you have journaled and felt your feelings you may feel differently about the person and the situation and you are able to respond rather than react to them.

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Self Love Day 1 – it’s not personal

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I have an upcoming course on Journaling for Self Love and have been asked lots of questions about it so I have decided to blog for 30 days on the questions that I frequently get asked.

One of my roles that I play in life is being a secondary school teacher. The most common question I get asked is “How do you stay so calm, relaxed and patient?”

The first and most important one is that I do not take anything personally. How a person responds or reacts to me is everything to do with them and nothing to do with me. That one is  a biggie and takes a while to master, but it is so worth the time and effort into practising it. In fact it is one of the cornerstones of something called The Four Agreements  by Don Miguel Ruiz.

It can seem challenging at first, we have spent so long buying into “taking it personally” that to drop it feels like the other person is getting away with something. A part of us has been happy blaming someone else for our misfortunes, allowing our days and lives to be affected by how other people treat us. As I write this it feels ridiculous that we could allow someone to have so much power over our day. It would be a great act of self love to be able to drop the habit, because that is all it is, a habit and habits can be changed.

So could you do that?

Just for today try not taking anything personally and seeing what happens.

Seeing how you feel at the end of the day, how has your day changed, for the better?

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More than a feeling

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It’s more than a song from Boston …..

Try playing the video and not singing along whilst trying to read.

Your feelings are your best guide to life, but how often do you ignore them or not know how to handle them?

One interesting exercise is to look at how you treat other people’s feelings.

The conversation could go like this …

“He never called and he said he would”

“But he will/ won’t because he doesn’t know what he is missing/has probably lost your number/ don’t worry he wasn’t the one/ there are plenty of other fish in the sea” (insert appropriate comment).

“I know all those things but …”

Logically you know what the person is saying, but this isn’t about that. This is about how you are feeling.

When you are the person expressing how you are feeling you don’t want all the logical answers or explanations; you know all of this in your rational brain. You just want to express how you are feeling.

As soon as the words have left your mouth, the natural reaction from anybody else present can be to give advice. We naturally want to make people feel better, we are a walking talking aspirin. The better thing to be is a sounding board, just listen and acknowledge their feelings.

Try it today, even if just once and watch how a conversation changes, how a connection with somebody else changes.

Just listen, don’t offer advice,just listen, if your brain and mouth are so desperate to say something just reflect back to them what they have said to you. Hand Over Mouth

Watch the transformation.

Watch how difficult you find it to keep that mouth closed.

If you can fight your ego and keep your mouth closed, you will change lives …

Including your own.

 

 

Keep Yer Knickers On

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So the show has started, we had the full moonBlood Moons last night with an eclipse and a blood full moon at that.

Has the pandemonium hit yet?

This will be the most intense fortnight of the century; can you handle it and ride the wave of change that is coming?

 

The phrase keep yer knickers on means to calm down and be patient, it originates from the expression keep your shirt on. Before modern manufacturing techniques, shirts required a lot of labor to make. Someone thinking of starting a fight might take off his shirt to prevent damage. Telling someone to “keep his shirt on” was equivalent to telling him “I don’t want to fight”.

I always receive images and descriptions of what it is going to be like in laymans terms.

Galleon ShipThis time period is like being on a huge big galleon in a port. Your ship is all ready to sail, you’ve got your crew, you’ve got your food and supplies, you’ve double checked the map and are ready to go. You are sure that you know which direction you want to be heading in.

You know that there is a storm coming that night so you decide to stay in the harbour and set sail in the morning when all is calm. Sensible? Yes ….

You have no idea how big this storm is and no idea how it will rock your boat and your world. One of the problems is that when this comes (it isn’t just a tidal wave it is a Tsumnami) it will completely cover your galleon and turn it around so when you awake in the morning you need to check whether your ship is facing the right direction?

Some of you will decide to bed down for the night and sleep through, some of you will be stood on deck not wanting to miss a thing.

This period of eclipses, grand crosses, new and full moons is all about which direction your life is going in. You have an opportunity to really think about this.

When I talk about a change of direction this does not necessarily mean that you have to actually physically move or change your outer circumstances, maybe it is just  looking at your inner world. Are you happy with the thoughts and beliefs that you carry?  They create your world and you need to know that the current ones will continue to create the world that you have been creating thus far.

Do not panic if you do not know which direction you want or what you want to change in your life, just having an awareness that something is not sitting due north is enough. This awareness will set you sailing in the right direction.

Big KnickersSo over the next 2 weeks you may find that people, situations and crises all come to the forefront. The key is to remember your grounding, sleep on things before you say them, try not to overreact. Yes there are things that need to be said but deal with the emotion first and then see what is the truth underneath. In other words “Keep yer knickers on”.

Having an awareness that you will be tested over the next few weeks and keeping this at the forefront of your mind instead of your ego screaming for action will give you safe passage.

Happy Sailing and remember to check which way your galleon is facing.

 

 

 

 

Get your spacehelmet on the rocket is launching

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This April there are lots of things happening astrologically; Pam Carruthers (www.healingstars.com) a great astrologer is doing a free webinar next Thursday to go through what it means and how it could affect you.

Kept behind in class

There has been a lot happening energetically and lots of people have felt it in different ways. Some have felt they have been kept behind in class to redo their homework. Issues in your life you thought were sorted have kept coming up to be reassessed, some with a teachers big cross against it.

In May the rocket launches; there has been a good reason for the delay, there always is with the universe. This feeling of being kept behind after school has all been about checking your travel plans.

Have you got your bags packed, double checked that your passport is up to date and in the right name and is this the right flight for you to be on? Once this rocket takes off there is no turning back, you don’t want to be zooming off into outer space and looking out of the window saying “oh bugger it wasn’t Venus I wanted to go to it was Mars”, it’s a long way back!

So check in with yourself; a great friend of mine Christine Levy introduced me to this and it has been a life saver. Checking in every day

  •  Are you where you want to be?
  • If not are you at least travelling down the right road to get to the place that you want to be (if your heart is in the North and you are travelling down the M6 southwards, is it time to turn around).
  • If you are not where you want to be, are you taking actions which eventually would take you down the right road. If you are facing the right direction when the energies take off, you will at least be taken in the right direction.
  • So if you are unhappy with your career have you at least started to put a plan into place even if it is a plan to help you find what you want to do.
  • Are you happy with the people you have in your lives, are they the people who you want to take on your space ship; if they are have you got the right connections with them, are there any untruths needing to be spoken about? Once you get out into space, any loose connections or blockages will come flying at you both, it is much better to get them checked out whilst on solid ground.

This is a very important time in your life for checking in with yourself on every area; time spent doing it now will save lots of hassle later on. You may get to Venus and quite like it and think” ooh maybe it is not such a bad place after all”, but if your heart was intent on travelling to Mars there will be some sorting out to do . Take time this weekend to do an inventory check of your life – what areas are you happy with and what areas need some new thinking. If you are not even sure what areas of your life are, then have a look at a wheel of life. Happy checking in Jennifer xxxx Wheel of Life