Self Love Day 21 – Let it go, let it go… How to really let go. 

frozen

I know you have had enough of the film and now I have mentioned it you can’t stop singing that all important life instruction “let it go”. No matter how annoyed you are with the film I feel it has an important message (love thaws, fear freezes) and what is even more amazing is that a nation of children are singing that life instruction to all the adults. You get the picture, adults are stressed and tense, trying to run a family, a household and the kids are just singing “let it go, let it go…”, thank you very much Disney for those instructions but how do you actually let it go.

The internet is buoyed up with lots of information of what you should do, but not always on how to do it. For me it is always about taking the time to stop and just pay attention.

Our subconscious and psyche are really amazing, they know exactly what they are doing, if only we understood them better and could see that they are truly trying to help us and not put us through hell.

Sometimes we can struggle to let something go because there is an emotion that needs healing and it can be an emotion from the past. The very clever psyche will alert us to things that need healing by “triggering” us, it could be that when somebody says something to you, your feelings and reaction are completely out of proportion to the situation, but what you know for sure is that those feelings are very real for you.

So step 1 – just recognising and having the awareness that your emotions are over the top for the situation will help you to distance yourself from them and just observe.

Step 2 – journal on your feelings, just actually stop, sit down and write out everything that you feel about the situation. As you start to write about how you are feeling or what you would like to say to the other person, you may find that you gently yield to some other emotions that you maybe hadn’t realised where there.

Give yourself the time and respect that you would give someone else to just have a look at something. Often in life it is the most simple solutions that help us, but we are so used to continuing on our hamster wheel reacting the way that we have done and only really maybe looking when a crisis happens.

You may find that when you journal that there are other feelings under there from a previous situation. For a variety of reasons when things happen to us we may bury our feelings. They remain in our subconscious and when similar events happen they can be triggered.

Its a bit like when you start to do laundry its helpful to put all the light coloured things together as they wash much better, its similar with your feelings. There maybe a situation where somebody ignores your feelings and you feel angry and similar to when you do wash day and shout “anybody got any lights that need doing” , your subconscious is shouting out “any more anger in there to get out” and like those old smelly socks underneath a teenagers bed, the other anger comes up going “oh hello, anger being processed, can we come too” and like those smelly socks that  are smelling rancid, the anger may feel very strong and out of proportion to the situation, but is only because the anger has been festering under some teenagers bed.

When you have a backlog of laundry you may feel a little overwhelmed and when you start to look at your feelings, you may find that you have a bit of backlog, but with a bit of time put aside you can work through that laundry and somewhere some part of you will be very grateful that all the smelly socks have been dealt with.

If you would like some support with that backlog of laundry, I do 1 2 1 coaching and run journaling courses which provide a safe environment to support you.

Journaling For Self Love

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More than a feeling

It’s more than a song from Boston …..

Try playing the video and not singing along whilst trying to read.

Your feelings are your best guide to life, but how often do you ignore them or not know how to handle them?

One interesting exercise is to look at how you treat other people’s feelings.

The conversation could go like this …

“He never called and he said he would”

“But he will/ won’t because he doesn’t know what he is missing/has probably lost your number/ don’t worry he wasn’t the one/ there are plenty of other fish in the sea” (insert appropriate comment).

“I know all those things but …”

Logically you know what the person is saying, but this isn’t about that. This is about how you are feeling.

When you are the person expressing how you are feeling you don’t want all the logical answers or explanations; you know all of this in your rational brain. You just want to express how you are feeling.

As soon as the words have left your mouth, the natural reaction from anybody else present can be to give advice. We naturally want to make people feel better, we are a walking talking aspirin. The better thing to be is a sounding board, just listen and acknowledge their feelings.

Try it today, even if just once and watch how a conversation changes, how a connection with somebody else changes.

Just listen, don’t offer advice,just listen, if your brain and mouth are so desperate to say something just reflect back to them what they have said to you. Hand Over Mouth

Watch the transformation.

Watch how difficult you find it to keep that mouth closed.

If you can fight your ego and keep your mouth closed, you will change lives …

Including your own.

 

 

Keep Yer Knickers On

So the show has started, we had the full moonBlood Moons last night with an eclipse and a blood full moon at that.

Has the pandemonium hit yet?

This will be the most intense fortnight of the century; can you handle it and ride the wave of change that is coming?

 

The phrase keep yer knickers on means to calm down and be patient, it originates from the expression keep your shirt on. Before modern manufacturing techniques, shirts required a lot of labor to make. Someone thinking of starting a fight might take off his shirt to prevent damage. Telling someone to “keep his shirt on” was equivalent to telling him “I don’t want to fight”.

I always receive images and descriptions of what it is going to be like in laymans terms.

Galleon ShipThis time period is like being on a huge big galleon in a port. Your ship is all ready to sail, you’ve got your crew, you’ve got your food and supplies, you’ve double checked the map and are ready to go. You are sure that you know which direction you want to be heading in.

You know that there is a storm coming that night so you decide to stay in the harbour and set sail in the morning when all is calm. Sensible? Yes ….

You have no idea how big this storm is and no idea how it will rock your boat and your world. One of the problems is that when this comes (it isn’t just a tidal wave it is a Tsumnami) it will completely cover your galleon and turn it around so when you awake in the morning you need to check whether your ship is facing the right direction?

Some of you will decide to bed down for the night and sleep through, some of you will be stood on deck not wanting to miss a thing.

This period of eclipses, grand crosses, new and full moons is all about which direction your life is going in. You have an opportunity to really think about this.

When I talk about a change of direction this does not necessarily mean that you have to actually physically move or change your outer circumstances, maybe it is just  looking at your inner world. Are you happy with the thoughts and beliefs that you carry?  They create your world and you need to know that the current ones will continue to create the world that you have been creating thus far.

Do not panic if you do not know which direction you want or what you want to change in your life, just having an awareness that something is not sitting due north is enough. This awareness will set you sailing in the right direction.

Big KnickersSo over the next 2 weeks you may find that people, situations and crises all come to the forefront. The key is to remember your grounding, sleep on things before you say them, try not to overreact. Yes there are things that need to be said but deal with the emotion first and then see what is the truth underneath. In other words “Keep yer knickers on”.

Having an awareness that you will be tested over the next few weeks and keeping this at the forefront of your mind instead of your ego screaming for action will give you safe passage.

Happy Sailing and remember to check which way your galleon is facing.

 

 

 

 

Get your spacehelmet on the rocket is launching

This April there are lots of things happening astrologically; Pam Carruthers (www.healingstars.com) a great astrologer is doing a free webinar next Thursday to go through what it means and how it could affect you.

Kept behind in class

There has been a lot happening energetically and lots of people have felt it in different ways. Some have felt they have been kept behind in class to redo their homework. Issues in your life you thought were sorted have kept coming up to be reassessed, some with a teachers big cross against it.

In May the rocket launches; there has been a good reason for the delay, there always is with the universe. This feeling of being kept behind after school has all been about checking your travel plans.

Have you got your bags packed, double checked that your passport is up to date and in the right name and is this the right flight for you to be on? Once this rocket takes off there is no turning back, you don’t want to be zooming off into outer space and looking out of the window saying “oh bugger it wasn’t Venus I wanted to go to it was Mars”, it’s a long way back!

So check in with yourself; a great friend of mine Christine Levy introduced me to this and it has been a life saver. Checking in every day

  •  Are you where you want to be?
  • If not are you at least travelling down the right road to get to the place that you want to be (if your heart is in the North and you are travelling down the M6 southwards, is it time to turn around).
  • If you are not where you want to be, are you taking actions which eventually would take you down the right road. If you are facing the right direction when the energies take off, you will at least be taken in the right direction.
  • So if you are unhappy with your career have you at least started to put a plan into place even if it is a plan to help you find what you want to do.
  • Are you happy with the people you have in your lives, are they the people who you want to take on your space ship; if they are have you got the right connections with them, are there any untruths needing to be spoken about? Once you get out into space, any loose connections or blockages will come flying at you both, it is much better to get them checked out whilst on solid ground.

This is a very important time in your life for checking in with yourself on every area; time spent doing it now will save lots of hassle later on. You may get to Venus and quite like it and think” ooh maybe it is not such a bad place after all”, but if your heart was intent on travelling to Mars there will be some sorting out to do . Take time this weekend to do an inventory check of your life – what areas are you happy with and what areas need some new thinking. If you are not even sure what areas of your life are, then have a look at a wheel of life. Happy checking in Jennifer xxxx Wheel of Life