Self Care Day 8 – Nothing Compares To You


People who love themselves don’t compare themselves to others, if there is any comparing to be done it is only ever with yourself when reminding yourself of how much you have overcome.

Look at your life 12 months ago, how did you deal with things then, what things have improved? There will always always be something, no matter how small and speaking of size the smaller the better. A mountain is not climbed in one big leap, it is taken at a pace step by step, moment by moment. If you want to climb this mountain of life take it moment by moment, the slower you are the more time you have to appreciate the beauty around you. How can you notice the delicate flowers when you are running?

Our life is not measured by our breaths but by the moments that take our breath away.

Stop, slow down really really pay attention to yourself and acknowledge the beauty that you are. Whatever it is that you are doing there will always be someone better or worse than you.

Love you, appreciate you and watch other people fall in love with who you really are.

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Self Love Day 7 – Love yourself enough to stop. 

Paying attention is a self loving habit, if something isn’t working or something feels off, just stop.

Stop and ask yourself what you need in that moment to make yourself feel better. Sometimes we don’t ask ourselves because we are frightened that we won’t be able to fulfil our own needs. It usually is something very simple and just requires us to be flexible.

Today after my teaching session I wasn’t feeling great but had a heap of marking to do and generally like to do it in school. I took 5 minutes to think about what I needed and it was that I should go home, have a rest, enjoy some sunshine and do the marking later.

I can have quite a fixed mindset and I most definitely dislike taking work home especially marking,  but in this instance it was much more self loving to take a break.

Make it a habit to just stop for 5 minutes, get off the hamster wheel and just ask yourself what it is you need and is there a more self loving way of doing this.

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Self Love Day 6

Attention, it’s all about attention. Self loving people pay attention to themselves and their needs. Yesterday I talked about breath and water and it is really interesting how our mind can convince us of something, it’s only when we really pay attention that we know what is going on.

I drink herbal tea 99% of the time so I was convinced that I was drinking enough fluids, it was only when I decided to pay attention and put my focus on it that I realised the truth, I should have had the auditors in sooner.

I decided to use the app Water Drink Monitor which records how much you drink a day against what you should drink (calculated from you inputting your weight). I was shocked to discover that I was only drinking 800ml of water a day, short of the recommended general of 2 litres a day and whey off my 4 litres calculated from the app!

In case you aren’t aware your body is roughly 75% water and your brain 90% water, so if you aren’t properly hydrated you aren’t giving yourself a chance. I won’t go into what type of water you drink, that is a new post.

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Self Love Day 5 – Drama Queen Alert 

Our solutions to our problems are actually very simple, but we get so caught up in creating drama and responding to others drama that we don’t get chance to catch our breath.

I am an empath, which means that I feel the feelings of people around me. It is a gift because you know how people feel and therefore can help them with their needs.

It also comes with a responsibility to look after yourself. This can appear challenging as you get caught up in everything around you, not knowing whose feelings are whom.

Last summer I was talking to someone about my dramas of being an empath and she politely asked me some questions….

How much water do you drink?

How often do you just stop and focus on your breath?

I was agahst, did this woman not know how dramatic my life was and how much time and energy I had devoted to that! Surely my problems couldn’t just be sorted by going back to basics and checking in with those first?

I decided to demote my drama queen and go back to basics, water and breath, which are the 2 most important things for the living.

Self love can mean going right back to basics and making sure our needs are met first.

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Self Love Day 4 – Journaling The Basics

Journaling, the how to basics……

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When you journal you are getting in touch with a deep inner part of you, so treat yourself well. Find a nice quiet space, I personally like to light candles and incense, put on my healing music, cuddle up under a blanket and write with lovely coloured pens and in a beautiful notebook. Treat yourself well, treat yourself like royalty, a good journaling session can be a luxurious and  nurturing activity.

Relax knowing that whatever you write is perfect, don’t hold back if you feel that its not what you should be writing, just look at the prompts and just allow yourself to flow. You will be pleasantly surprised by what you uncover.

Another way of thinking about it is to imagine that you had someone sat in front of you and they actually wanted to fully listen to you and fully hear you and are completely supportive of your situation.

If you have a situation that is on your mind then here are a set of prompts to help you

  1. How am I actually feeling about this situation (no holds barred, you don’t have to share this with anybody you just need to actually acknowledge and feel your feelings).
  2. When have I felt like this before? What was the situation, who was involved, what was the outcome?
  3. What did I learn about myself in this situation?
  4. If I had a crystal ball what would that tell me? (this is a fabulous no holds barred coaching strategy, because somewhere we know what is happening, we just haven’t found a way to verbalise it yet).
  5. Go back and do it again, yes again, its amazing when you go back to something how you may a have another layer of understanding. If you can, redo it 3 times and see what happens.

Good luck with this, be kind and gentle with yourself you are doing a great job.

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Self Love Day 3 – still not taking it personally

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So you’ve started to realise that not taking it personally is definitely a way forward to change your life and maybe you have dabbled in some journaling, but how do you keep up your stamina?

Surely you can’t spend the rest of your life lounging around with your candles and gel pens delving deep into your soul or maybe you don’t want to. There is life to be lead, work, family, children, relationships, bills, shopping, blah blah blah.

Well no it doesn’t have to be this way,

more of a change of attitude,

more of a noticing,

more of a paying attention to yourself

with gentleness

with curiosity

I wonder what is going on here

I wonder how I am feeling.

Just taking the time to notice, to pay attention on a regular basis will have an impact. If you are listening to yourself more, maybe you won’t need to get triggered because in the simple act of listening you are being proactive and don’t need the triggers to warn you that something is amiss.

As human beings we make life complicated and therefore assume that the solutions also have to be, they don’t.

The effectiveness isn’t just in the remedy but in how often you take it.

Be gentle, be kind, pay attention and in those moments, cherish.

Self Love Day 2 – how to not take it personally.

My Self Love Day 1 article prompted a question along the lines of  “yes that is great I have not to take it personal, I get that, its all to do with the other person and not me, but how do I actually do it?”

So are you ready for the magic formula? This is how we do it ….

The first thing to do is actually pay the situation some attention and a wonderful way to do that is through journaling. It is only when we put our attention on it that we can find out what the root cause is.

It’s ok noticing the dripping tap but unless we take any action, the tap is going to keep dripping and until we look at it we can’t know why. It might be because it needs a new washer, but until you investigate you have no idea what the root cause is and if you don’t know what that is how on earth can you find a solution.

Journaling helps you to look at the situation, which in a lot of cases is nothing to do with what is happening. It can be an old hurt or pain resurfacing to be healed. I recently had an achilles tendon injury and one of the therapies on offer was to retraumatise the injury to promote the healing process.

Our psyche can be doing that to help us heal an old trauma or hurt by creating another one to promote the healing process. The journaling helps us to stand back from the situation and look at the story objectively to see if we can see the core.

Having an awareness and understanding of the situation is also very helpful in giving you a barrier between the person and the situation. Just take your journal and write down everything that you would want to say to them if you gave yourself full permission to feel all those feelings.

Once you have journaled and felt your feelings you may feel differently about the person and the situation and you are able to respond rather than react to them.

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Keep Yer Knickers On

So the show has started, we had the full moonBlood Moons last night with an eclipse and a blood full moon at that.

Has the pandemonium hit yet?

This will be the most intense fortnight of the century; can you handle it and ride the wave of change that is coming?

 

The phrase keep yer knickers on means to calm down and be patient, it originates from the expression keep your shirt on. Before modern manufacturing techniques, shirts required a lot of labor to make. Someone thinking of starting a fight might take off his shirt to prevent damage. Telling someone to “keep his shirt on” was equivalent to telling him “I don’t want to fight”.

I always receive images and descriptions of what it is going to be like in laymans terms.

Galleon ShipThis time period is like being on a huge big galleon in a port. Your ship is all ready to sail, you’ve got your crew, you’ve got your food and supplies, you’ve double checked the map and are ready to go. You are sure that you know which direction you want to be heading in.

You know that there is a storm coming that night so you decide to stay in the harbour and set sail in the morning when all is calm. Sensible? Yes ….

You have no idea how big this storm is and no idea how it will rock your boat and your world. One of the problems is that when this comes (it isn’t just a tidal wave it is a Tsumnami) it will completely cover your galleon and turn it around so when you awake in the morning you need to check whether your ship is facing the right direction?

Some of you will decide to bed down for the night and sleep through, some of you will be stood on deck not wanting to miss a thing.

This period of eclipses, grand crosses, new and full moons is all about which direction your life is going in. You have an opportunity to really think about this.

When I talk about a change of direction this does not necessarily mean that you have to actually physically move or change your outer circumstances, maybe it is just  looking at your inner world. Are you happy with the thoughts and beliefs that you carry?  They create your world and you need to know that the current ones will continue to create the world that you have been creating thus far.

Do not panic if you do not know which direction you want or what you want to change in your life, just having an awareness that something is not sitting due north is enough. This awareness will set you sailing in the right direction.

Big KnickersSo over the next 2 weeks you may find that people, situations and crises all come to the forefront. The key is to remember your grounding, sleep on things before you say them, try not to overreact. Yes there are things that need to be said but deal with the emotion first and then see what is the truth underneath. In other words “Keep yer knickers on”.

Having an awareness that you will be tested over the next few weeks and keeping this at the forefront of your mind instead of your ego screaming for action will give you safe passage.

Happy Sailing and remember to check which way your galleon is facing.

 

 

 

 

Get your spacehelmet on the rocket is launching

This April there are lots of things happening astrologically; Pam Carruthers (www.healingstars.com) a great astrologer is doing a free webinar next Thursday to go through what it means and how it could affect you.

Kept behind in class

There has been a lot happening energetically and lots of people have felt it in different ways. Some have felt they have been kept behind in class to redo their homework. Issues in your life you thought were sorted have kept coming up to be reassessed, some with a teachers big cross against it.

In May the rocket launches; there has been a good reason for the delay, there always is with the universe. This feeling of being kept behind after school has all been about checking your travel plans.

Have you got your bags packed, double checked that your passport is up to date and in the right name and is this the right flight for you to be on? Once this rocket takes off there is no turning back, you don’t want to be zooming off into outer space and looking out of the window saying “oh bugger it wasn’t Venus I wanted to go to it was Mars”, it’s a long way back!

So check in with yourself; a great friend of mine Christine Levy introduced me to this and it has been a life saver. Checking in every day

  •  Are you where you want to be?
  • If not are you at least travelling down the right road to get to the place that you want to be (if your heart is in the North and you are travelling down the M6 southwards, is it time to turn around).
  • If you are not where you want to be, are you taking actions which eventually would take you down the right road. If you are facing the right direction when the energies take off, you will at least be taken in the right direction.
  • So if you are unhappy with your career have you at least started to put a plan into place even if it is a plan to help you find what you want to do.
  • Are you happy with the people you have in your lives, are they the people who you want to take on your space ship; if they are have you got the right connections with them, are there any untruths needing to be spoken about? Once you get out into space, any loose connections or blockages will come flying at you both, it is much better to get them checked out whilst on solid ground.

This is a very important time in your life for checking in with yourself on every area; time spent doing it now will save lots of hassle later on. You may get to Venus and quite like it and think” ooh maybe it is not such a bad place after all”, but if your heart was intent on travelling to Mars there will be some sorting out to do . Take time this weekend to do an inventory check of your life – what areas are you happy with and what areas need some new thinking. If you are not even sure what areas of your life are, then have a look at a wheel of life. Happy checking in Jennifer xxxx Wheel of Life